How to: Wedding Vows
Your wedding is a testament to everything in your relationship and a dedication to the future. Wedding vows are personal words of trust, commitment, honour and love which will resonate throughout your lives…
(You already knew that, so let’s get to it…)
This guide can help compose and structure your wedding vows, but it doesn’t define the rules of how to write them. Use this to phrase how you feel, outline key moments in your friendship and express the bond and commitment of your future. Don’t worry about your friends & family around you, just focus on the person before you.
T H E P A S T
An easy way to begin, is to start where you began.
Share a brief story of when you first met or the type of person you were prior to being together. Tell an embarrassing moment, fact or personality trait. Keep this short, sweet and personalised to you and your relationship.
“Before we met, I was a chubby young man, notoriously known to never be on time and never be organized. I lived and nested in my comfort zone. But your vibrant personality and uplifting nature transformed ordinary to extraordinary.”
W H A T T H E Y M E A N T O Y O U & W H Y
I don’t care if you say “I like chicken soup”. But if you told me you like chicken soup because your Grandma made it from scratch every time you were sick, then that’s a wholesome story. It’s obvious that you both love each other, you wouldn’t be where you are right now if you didn’t. Don’t just tell your partner that you love them, but tell them what you love about them and why, how it makes you feel and why it’s important it.
“I love how you laugh out loud randomly when you remember something silly I’ve done. It makes me glad to know I’m always in your thoughts.”
“I love how you’ve always supported me through different jobs, studying online, struggling times and always been so proud to celebrate in my victories. I’m humbled to know that each day forward, good or bad, I’ll always have you by my side.”
C O M M I T M E N T & P R O M I S E S
Bottom line, vows are a dedication. You’re love story is unique and unlike any other, no one else has the same story. Other people would have gone on dates, have watched that same movie, ate at the same restaurant, and probably ordered the same food; but no one else was in your seat looking at your wife/husband to be, in that specific moment.
Make personalised promises and dedications that your partner will truly appreciate. Offer things that only you can provide, above any one else. Not every commitment has to be deep and heart felt, but don’t skimp out. Just as long as it’s personal to your relationship.
“I don’t promise to automatically love every Pokemon game, Star Wars movie or your ever growing basketball shoe collection, but I acknowledge and accept that you will never not love them.”
“I promise to always protect you and provide. When you’re sick I promise to make you Nutella and toast, because I know it comforts you.”
C L O S E O U T
As the title says, close out your vows. Let your husband/wife know you’ll be loving them until the end. Try mentioning the words forever, always, rest of your life/days, from now on, never ending, never fading etc …
” * Your name, * I promise you all of these things, and my ever growing love… forever.”
G O O D L U C K !
Again, this is a guide. Don’t feel obliged or get caught up trying to “entertain” the crowd. Simply promise, vow and voice your commit and love.
